“Whatever harm an enemy does to an enemy or a hater to a hater, an ill-directed mind inflicts on itself a greater harm.” The Buddha
The very same mechanism of the above action, in reverse, can also apply to mind: Whatever good we may do to or for others will soothethe mind with lightness and a greater sense of love.
Whenever life leans heavy on your soul, whenever there is a sense of depression, whenever your mind tends towards being involved with itself, caught up in its intricate wishlist and resultant disappointments, whenever you feel others don’t love you enough, whenever you like things for yourself and your family but feel it is selfish of you… then think about what change you have brought about for children and poor families in their dire circumstances of food, education and shelter, even on a small scale. It should soothe and calm your mind. Know that there are people out there who will love you, not through their elaborate reciprocation but through their sighs and prayers.
If you are not providing your support to anyone other than your own family, then you ought to expand your reach and also provide needy people with material help. For those with means and skills, helping one’s own family is wonderful but is no longer sufficient in the world in which we live. Helping one’s own tribe, be it family, village or country, is still help, but it is help with a vested self-interest. As Goethe said, “Humanity stands above nations.”
Helping others, especially those you don’t know, is wholesome. The source of your humanity is in your noble speech and thoughts,but far more important are your noble actions. This selfless humanitarian attitude will heal your mind in times of difficulty.
Thus by helping poor, struggling, under-privileged children and families you are also helping yourself.